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2. Card Descriptions and Links 3. How to Use the "Check-In" Cards 4. The Importance of Caring Presence |
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 HE LINKS BELOW will enable you to download and print several card pages that will support you in beginning to develop the habit of noticing and nurturing your important feelings. There is a card guide for doing your own check-in, as well as another for helping someone else do a check-in. There are also cards to be used when responding to “on-the-spot” situations where children, teens, or other adults are sharing important feelings with you. |
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| If you and a friend are going through this site together, the card for helping someone else do a check-in will be a very useful support for learning the process together. |
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| Clicking on the individual blue card links below will open a second, smaller browser window on top of this one. The card guides that appear there are formatted in two different ways for printing: |
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| If you do not have Adobe Acrobat Reader, a free version may be downloaded from www.adobe.com. PDF files will print full size, even though the 2nd browser window they appear in is smaller than the page. To return to this page after printing, since both the regular page and "PDF" formats below appear in smaller browser windows on top of the screen you're now reading, simply click the little "Close Window" box in the upper left corner of the smaller windows to close them and return to this page. Your regular print button will be dimmed when the secondary text or PDF browser windows open. However, there is another print button on the PDF window version in the upper left corner. There is also a print button at the top of the Regular Page Format version as well. Click on that button to print. On both text and PDF versions you may also use your regular keyboard commands to print. Hold down Command + P (for Mac), Control + P (for Windows). This brings up your regular print dialogue box. If the "Close" box is dimmed or does not appear on the PDF pages, clicking the PDF Print button and then either cancelling or printing will make the close box visible. |
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 ESCRIPTIONS OF EACH PAGE and card are included beneath the links below. Click directly on a PDF Format link to your right if you prefer to download and print the card in that version. Otherwise, click on the title link to your left in order to view and print the card text in a regular page format. |
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| This card guides you into your own self-process, providing suggestions for noticing and nurturing your important feelings. It includes questions for beginning and ending a session, as well as what to do when stopping in an unfinished place. It also describes how to journey deeper as further feelings and felt meanings emerge. |
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| This card will guide you in companioning a spouse, friend, older child, or teen during their check-in. It is very useful when two or more people learn from the website together. What you say at different points in the check-in is clearly printed in bold type. Additional instructions that guide you in your companioning are also printed in italics. |
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| This is not a check-in card. Rather, it helps you get started “on-the-spot” when immediate, important feelings in a child need responding to right now. You go straight to the feeling that is on top, inviting a child to go inside, grow quiet, and be with the feeling that is there. The card includes useful suggestions about how to help a child notice where in their body they carry some hurt or excitement, and a reminder to be caring and gentle with what they are feeling. Instructions on how to end a session, and what to do after a session are also included. |
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| This card is like #3 above, but it uses different language and ways of responding to important feelings that are more appropriate for a teen or adult. Like #3, it’s an “on-the-spot” card for responding to real-life situations and important feelings. The card provides useful suggestions for the companion’s role in helping a person stay in their body with their feelings, so inner stories may break through and be heard. |
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| This card, along with your help and support, will enable a child to begin developing their own habit of noticing and nurturing important feelings. We are currently working in a nursery school setting together with a group of pre-school parents to discover simple, effective ways for teaching younger children how to go inside and listen to their important feelings in a gentle, caring way. |
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| As soon as we find an effective way of doing this, we will post the text and card here on the site. |
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| The two cards, “Checking-In with Yourself” and “Helping Someone with a Check-In,” are self explanatory. If you are doing a check-in by yourself, we suggest finding a place where you can be quiet and undisturbed. Then, read a direction on the card, close your eyes to go inside--especially where it says “(pause)”--and sense how your body carries the feeling you are attending to. Once you’ve done that, open your eyes and read the next direction. Continue in this manner until you bring your check-in to a close. |
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 OU CAN ALSO DO quick little check-ins throughout the day, just dropping down inside your body, noticing and nurturing important feelings. As you become more familiar with the cards, you won’t need to depend upon them that much and will be able to do this on your own wherever and whenever you need. |
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| The card, “Helping Someone with a Check-In,” will be very helpful, especially if you are learning the process together with another person. In the beginning, simply read the bold text and pause where it says to pause. Be sure to repeat the #3 Reflection and #4 Recycling as often as needed before bringing each session to a close. |
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| After a session, if there is any sharing by the one who did a check-in, your responses should reflect back that you heard the feeling content of what was shared, rather than getting into analyzing or trying to solve their problem. |
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| Ask yourself, “How must this other person feel inside as they talk about this?” Then say back what you sense of that so they know you hear how they are “inside.” It’s this inside part that so often is not heard and reflected back to us. |
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| When two people get together for a check-in session, it’s good to divide the time up in advance so each person has an opportunity both to companion and to do their own check-in. |
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| HE PURPOSE OF A CHECK-IN is to notice and nurture your important feelings. These are feelings that at any given moment somehow stand out from the rest of the crowd of emotional and sensory responses emerging and fading throughout your day. Whether positive or negative, difficult or easy to be with, these are the link entry points into what your body already knows about the felt meaning of your life. |
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| Remember, as we mentioned earlier, important feelings are like the phone ringing. There’s a message waiting for you, a message that comes from what your body knows. It’s always about more than what your mind is thinking! |
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| But what can you do with feelings you want to push away and don’t like in yourself? How do you connect with them in a way that allows them to give you their message? You can’t just “think” a connection. Somehow, you must relate to difficult feelings in a totally different “body-way,” so the message can break through. We call this “allowing” way a “caring body presence.” |
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| Most of us have never been taught how to care for and listen to feelings that are difficult to be around. |
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| The following pages on this website offer a unique explanation and approach to being with your difficult feelings that may be quite different from anything you’ve ever tried before. |
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